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November 14th, 2004
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grr. argh.
It has not been an unproductive weekend, and I did fit in a (re)reading of a book just for pleasure, but the stress multipliers have been through the roof for the entire household.

My chief desire at this moment is for someone to hold my hand (metaphorically) while I wade through my personal email inbox (also metaphorically), because even contemplating all 59 messages one at a time causes my headache to spike (literally, alas). cjsmith, we could trade off, if you're interested.

There would be a boring food entry here, but they're boring even me. Suffice it to say that I ate some meat-wrapped-in-pita-breads at a party last night that were technically verboten. I don't feel too bad today physically (right knee is steadily improving), but I am being careful to eat well. elflet and I experimented with some LC almond muffins on Saturday that aren't half bad (we dosed them with poppy seeds and lemon zest).

Current Mood: headachy

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From:cjsmith
Date:November 15th, 2004 10:28 pm (UTC)
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Wow, it's spiking your headache? That sounds awful.

Is it good hand-holding to say you are allowed to look at (process, etc) just one or two and move on to do something else for a while? Thus not attacking all 59?
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From:ambar
Date:November 15th, 2004 11:37 pm (UTC)
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That is definitely the right approach to start with. My problem is -- remember the chunk of GTD where he talks about how someone might start out by intending to do their taxes, and wind up with a mental path like taxes -> IRS -> audit -> JAIL!!!! in a fraction of a second? And then decide to procrastinate?

That is me. That is SO me. So I look at the next thing. Or the next five things. I am suddenly in jail five different ways, and I grab for anything else to do, or look at. Instant dogpile in the inbox. Lots of solitaire games played.

I need someone to slow me down, is what I need. I think I will work out a list of helpful questions and present them to my coach tomorrow. If you are curious about the list, let me know and I will post it when I'm done. I suspect it starts with "what is this? what outcome does it make you want to take?" -- skipping right over "is there an action associated with this?" because anything that's been marinating in my inbox that long HAS an association action. :-)
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From:cjsmith
Date:November 16th, 2004 12:48 am (UTC)
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taxes -> IRS -> audit -> JAIL!!!! in a fraction of a second

Ooooo yeah. Definitely.

and I grab for anything else to do, or look at. Instant dogpile in the inbox. Lots of solitaire games played.

Boy do I know the feeling. In fact, I'm not even sure I know the FEELING, any more. I leap straight from inbox (or whatever the task is, inbox isn't usually the hard one for me) to solitaire. It avoids all those nasty FEELINGS things.

list of helpful questions

I am indeed curious, and would be interested to read them if you feel like sharing. I'm also a bit curious what form this "coaching" takes. It sounds like a cross between David Allen and cognitive/behavioral therapy, but obviously I know squat about it except what you mention occasionally here. :-)
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From:ambar
Date:November 15th, 2004 11:38 pm (UTC)
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The headache probably originated from pushing myself to finish my first complete weekly review in two months. The good news is, I finished. :-)
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From:cjsmith
Date:November 16th, 2004 12:49 am (UTC)
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Hey cool! And at least your mind was more empty at the end? Hopefully?? Except being full of a headache, of course...
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From:ambar
Date:November 17th, 2004 12:47 am (UTC)
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I had room to think about all sorts of new things. Which now need to be captured... *snicker*
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From:cjsmith
Date:November 17th, 2004 12:58 am (UTC)
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It just doesn't end, does it? Some days I despair that my Review Daily and Review Weekly files are so thick with crap. I bet one of the major bonuses of doing this for a while is that you start being able to say "no, I simply will not do that".
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From:ambar
Date:November 17th, 2004 01:04 am (UTC)
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You are exactually right. Or, at least file it in "someday/maybe but not this !@#$ week!"

I was rather startled to discover that some people do their weekly review and put *all* NAs that they "don't expect to get to" this week into S/M...
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From:cjsmith
Date:November 17th, 2004 01:10 am (UTC)
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Wow. I guess that makes some sense, although if I remember right Someday/Maybe was supposed to get reviewed weekly anyways. (Me, I'm trying monthly for that and will see how bad that really is.)
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From:cjsmith
Date:November 16th, 2004 07:57 pm (UTC)
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Random idea: Print out the messages, one to a sheet. Then you can choose to look at one piece of paper at a time. You can't reply right away 'cause you're not at the computer. You can't see how many you have and panic. You just look at one and think about what your next action is.

Maybe?
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From:ambar
Date:November 17th, 2004 12:47 am (UTC)
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You know, I'm so printer-allergic that this wouldn't have occurred to me. I'll try it.
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From:cjsmith
Date:November 17th, 2004 12:59 am (UTC)
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Cool -- I hope it helps!

(I'm usually printer-allergic too, at least when I'm at home, as the old honkin' LaserJet 4+ can't run if the lights are on...)
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